For the past decade, I’ve spent thousands of hours listening to people try to explain what happens to love.

Why people who care deeply for one another become trapped in cycles of criticism and withdrawal. Why desire disappears. Why some relationships become places of safety while others become organized around fear. Why people long so deeply to be understood, and how painful it feels when they cannot reach each other.

I’ve come to believe that relationships are the primary way human beings grow, heal, and transform.

My work explores the emotional logic beneath intimacy: attachment, responsiveness, conflict, longing, emotional risk, and the hidden patterns that shape connection.

I’m a licensed psychologist and a certified EFT couple therapist based in Brunswick, Maine, where I direct the Center for Relationships at Psychology Specialists of Maine. I teach and supervise therapists in Emotionally Focused Therapy and serve as president of EFT Maine.

My clinical work focuses primarily on couples therapy, especially relationships shaped by trauma, emotional disconnection, or recurring conflict.

I write regularly on Substack about relationships, attachment, emotional development, desire, and the paradoxes of intimacy.