What You Wish For is my hope. I wrote this book after years of watching love transform in front of me. From despair to hope, from hope to freedom. I’ve never stopped being amazed at what love can do.

It starts with a wish.

Long before we meet them, we have already met them: in our dreams, our fantasies. How amazing is it that we can imagine a repair we’ve never known in practice?

That wish also becomes the fault line of conflict; the very qualities we chose in a partner become a source of pain and disconnection. Be careful what you wish for.

With luck, conscious intention, and curiosity, though, we can engage in the reckoning and come out the other side, safer with a partner to the point that it enables us to transcend the person who said yes to the first date. Our wish comes true.

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